Nowadays, paternity has become an extremely serious matter. The proof: I recently received a sum of 436 pages to the editorial staff a short time to become a dad for the dummies (under the direction of Benjamin Muller, First Editions, 23.95 euros). The subtext is clear: if, before, the Pater Familias could be content to embody an overhanging authority while quietly tutuating the nothingness in terms of educational involvement, it is now expected at the turn. In the ruthless race for self -promotion (be careful, every detail counts), be unable to manage a change of layer, yawn the stresses of your offspring or, worse, howl on the last one on the pretext that he did not No more soup plate will make you lose many points.
To avoid this kind of shipwreck, a bunch of themes are addressed in an extremely didactic manner in becoming a dad for dummies: sex life in the third trimester of pregnancy (favor the position of the “spoon”) to the method Kangaroo (skin to skin to skin), from the management of the baby clash (these crawls frequent in the couple after the arrival of a baby) to the domestic sharing of the tasks, nothing seems to escape the encyclopedic aims of the work. Regarding the psychiatric component, we can read: “Despite their contribution, certain sciences themselves have been able to deer clumsily against new paternity. Thus, women have long been perceived by psychoanalysis as a source of affection of the As a child, while the man represented an external separator third party symbolically cutting the umbilical cord between the two. “
a magic word
Between the lines, we understand that the one who is put here on the accused’s bench is none other than this good old Oedipus, a central concept of psychoanalysis. Theorized by Sigmund Freud, this drive base of the psyche is, according to Wikipedia, “defined as the desire to maintain a romantic and voluptuous relationship with the parent of the opposite sex (incest) and that of eliminating the parent of the same sex (parricide or matricide) considered to be rival. Thus, the fact that a boy during this period is in love with his mother and wishes to kill his father responds to the imperative of the Oedipus complex “. Hence the role of the dad, consisting in arising like a Bébel of the family triad (tactacbadaboum) to defeat this dynamic incestual.
Today, while the Psy vulgate has been widely disseminated in the social body, it is common to start analyzing everything in this preexisting explanatory structure, without questioning its relevance. One of my sons systematically sticks between my wife and me in bed to watch TV? Don’t panic, it’s Oedipus. He ostensibly forgets to say hello in the morning? It is not an education problem, it is Oedipus. Oedipus is a bit like when the mechanic tells you: “Ah, it’s the cardan!”, A magic word that wears your head with an air heard, when in real life you are did not understand much. Oedipus, in any case, places me in this curious position of being both a symbolic father and a real father, someone that the child would have the desire to eradicate from the surface of the globe in the name of unconscious impulses, but with whom we must go to the park in the quarter of an hour after in the name of pragmatism.
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